Day 12

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 12

"I Will Always be Faithful to You."

Love must be without hypocrisy. Detest evil; cling to what is good.  

Romans 12:9 

Temptation is everywhere. But marriage must be built on trust. Without trust a marriage begins to wither. For Christian men and women, being faithful to your spouse is the right choice because it is God's policy. Hebrews 13:4 says it this way;  Marriage must be respected by all, and the marriage bed kept undefiled, because God will judge immoral people and adulterers.

Yesterday I talked briefly about the wife in Proverbs 31. In verse 11 and 12 the writer says the heart of her husband trusts in her,  and he will not lack anything good. She rewards him with good, not evil, all the days of her life. In other words, her husband can give her his heart and know that she will never cause him to regret it.

The Bible says that whoever has no rule over his own spirit is like a city broken down without walls. Ask God today to help you not be broken down by evil but raised up by the power of God. Ask Him to build a wall of protection around you and your husband so that you will hate what is evil and cling to what is good. God will do it, because faithfulness is His policy. 

Today tell your husband that he can trust his heart to you because you have given your heart to God. 

  

Day 11

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 11

"I Will Try to Make Our Home a Happy Place."

He blesses the home of the righteous. Proverbs 3:33

Are you determined to make your home a happy place? I hope that is your intent because that is what God wants and what your husband needs. Webster's dictionary describes happiness as -enjoying or characterized by well-being and contentment: having or marked by an atmosphere of good fellowship.

That sounds to me like a happy home is one where the atmosphere is pleasant. Have you ever heard the old saying, "if Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy?" Most of the time the woman sets the tone in the home.  Jesus teaches, "In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you. Matthew 7:12. Healthy homes are built upon this rule. Healthy homes are built on caring and sharing, giving and taking. When we know God's Word and follow it, we enrich our own lives and the lives of those in our home.

Consider the Godly model of the wife from Proverbs 31. It says she takes care of her home and runs it well. She is not lazy, but carefully watches what goes on in her home. God expects no less from us. God deserves the best we can give Him. And by the way, so does your husband.

So today, honor God and your husband by setting the tone of happiness in your home.

The home should be a kind of church, a place where God is honored. 

Billy Graham 

Day 10

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 10

"I Am Thankful for All You Do."

In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in

Christ Jesus for you.

1 Thessalonians 5:16

Are you thankful for the things your husband does? Then you need to tell him so. No one likes to be taken for granted.

Your husband is the head of the family. That comes with great responsibility. Think of all the countless duties your husband has. Some of them begin before sunrise and may not end until long after sunset. Amid all the rush of life it is easy to lose sight of all those blessings. Tell him you are thankful for all the things that help make your life good, from taking out the trash, to making sure the bills are paid and food is on the table, to setting an example for your children to follow. Ask God to bless the work of your husband's hands. Pray that he will be like a tree planted by the water that brings forth fruit in due season. May he never wither under pressure, but grow strong and prosper. (Psalm 1:3)

Develop an attitude of gratitude.

Day 9

Things I Need To Tell My Husband

Day 9

"Thank You for Being a Man of Integrity."

The integrity of the upright will guide them,

but the perversity of the unfaithful will destroy them.

Proverbs 11:3

Integrity ...it's who you are when no one is looking. It's a level of morality which you never fall below. It's a high standard of honesty, truthfulness, decency and honor that is never breached.

When your husband  yields to God's high principles of moral integrity, there are blessing you and your family will enjoy because of the man he is. Blessings that you can pass down to your children. Since integrity starts in your heart, your husband must choose to be a man of integrity.

But he needs your prayers to help him fight the enemy that seeks to snare him. Ask God to give him a teachable spirit that is willing to listen to the voice of wisdom and grow in God's ways.  Pray that he will not live a lie in any way, but truth and mercy will be bound around his neck.

Your prayers will help shield him from anything that causes him to doubt or waver, and give him strength to do the right thing - even when no one is looking.

The righteous man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him."

Proverbs 20:7

Day 8

Things I Need To Tell My Husband

Day 8

"Thank You For Your Prayers"

The intense prayer of the righteous is very powerful. James 5:16

Do you pray for your husband? Does he pray for you? Do you pray together? You should. When a man and woman are married they become one unit, unified in spirit. Unity is a powerful thing. This oneness gives us power that the devil does not like. Prayer is a powerful thing too. When you and your husband are united in prayer you can move the mountains in your marriage and in your family.

Some people pray out of habit, like at meals or at bedtime.  Romans 12:12 says that we should be persistent in prayer. Through constant prayer, you and your husband can petition God, praise God, and seek His guidance for you marriage and life. Prayer changes thing, prayer changes people, prayer changes marriages. 

Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to hime who knocks it will be opened.

Matthew 7:7-8



Day 7

Things I Need To Tell My Husband

Day 7

"Thank You for Your Forgiveness, I Will be Forgiving too."

Be merciful, just as your Father also is merciful.

Luke 6:36

If you want to make love last a lifetime, you and your husband will have to master the art of forgiveness.

One day, Peter asked Jesus about forgiveness. "Just how many times am I required to forgive a person? About seven?" Jesus answered, "seventy seven times." Jesus knew the art of forgiving was learning how to keep on forgiving. 

Granting forgiveness is hard when you have been hurt by the one you love. It's hard, but it is not impossible.  Bitterness, anger, and regret are emotions that have no place in your marriage. Ask God for His help. He will help you put aside any anger, hurt and disappointment. Ask God to make you a tool of reconciliation and healing in your marriage. Remember, you will never forgive someone more than God has forgiven you.

 Thank your husband today for the times he has extended forgiveness to you and let him know that you will try to always be forgiving.

Only the truly forgiven are truly forgiving.

C.S Lewis

Day 6

Thing I Need To Tell My Husband

Day 6

"Thank You for Your Patience. I Will be Patient Too."

Love is Patient; love is kind.

1 Corinthians 13:4

Marriage requires patience. Even if you are married to the most wonderful man in the world, from time to time he will do things that confuse you, confound you, and anger you. Why? Because he is a human being just like you. There are times when we all need others  to be patient with us, but living day to day with someone may require more patience than we actually have. On days like that you need to remember how patient God is with you. Everyday His mercy is new.

Are you one of those women who demand perfection from your spouse? Maybe it's time to lighten up on your expectations. The changes you try to make in your husband will be disappointing. Instead, ask God to make the necessary changes. He will do a far better job. Psalms 62:5 puts it this way.."My soul waits for God alone, my expectation is from Him."  Your greatest expectation should be from God, not your husband. 

If you expect patience from your husband, he has the right to expect the same from you. So the next time your husband is trying your patience, take a deep breath and ask God to help you be patient. Remember, the world unfolds on God's timetable, not yours.

A patient person shows great understanding,

 but a quick -tempered one promotes foolishness.  Proverbs 14:29