Day 20

Things I Need To Tell My Husband

Day 20

"By God's Grace, We Will Make It!"

Because of the Lord's faithful love we do not perish, for His mercies never end. They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness!

Lamentations 3:22-23

The Bible makes it clear that God's love for you is deeper and more profound than you can imagine. When you and your husband embrace God together you feel differently about your marriage. God's plan for you and your husband is for the love you have for each other to last a lifetime. He is always there to help. If you really want a love that endures, make sure God is the focus of your marriage.

I have been writing about things that we need to tell our husbands, but I want to end this blog with something we need to remind ourselves. We don't have power over our husbands, but we do have "power over all the power of the enemy" (Luke 10:19). Therefore, we don't have to just sit idle and let the enemy destroy our marriage. We have the power in the name of Jesus to stop evil and permit good. Whatever the problem or situation, always remember to pray first. God is on our side! Love never fails.

Day 19

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Day 19

" I Will Serve With You."

There are different kinds of gifts, but they are all from the same Spirit.

 There are different ways to serve but the same Lord to serve.

 1 Corinthians 12:4-5

Did you know that God has a plan for your marriage? As you and your husband begin to discover God's plan, you must ask yourself this question: "How does God want us to serve?"

You can be sure that God has a purpose for your life. Jesus was the ultimate servant, giving his life for mankind. If we follow Him, we too must become servants. Are you willing to become a servant for Jesus? When you and your husband serve God together there is a strong bond that is formed. You will begin to realize that the reason you are married is bigger than just for you and him to be happy. You are married because God has ordained it and His purpose is to use you to reach others. When the devil tries to attack your relationship, you can remind him that this marriage is not about you, it's about God purpose and God has His Hand on your marriage.

Pray that you will clearly hear the call God has on your life. Realize that you and your spouse were created for a higher purpose. Ask God to to let you be everything He has call you to be and don't let other things sidetrack you. In other words; Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:16

Day 18

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Day 18

"You Are My Best Friend."

I give thanks to my God every time I remember you.

Philippians 1:3

Being good friends with godly people who love the Lord does not happen by chance. We must pray that such people will come into our lives. When we find them, we should continue to cover the relationships in prayer. That is why it's very important to have a church home where it's possible to meet the kind of people you need. Choose to be around people whose hearts are aimed toward God.

Genuine friendship between a husband and wife should be treasured and nurtured. Is your husband your best friend? If so, you are blessed by God. Never take that gift for granted. Today, remember the important role that friends play in our life and the important role that being friends with your husband plays in your marriage. Let your husband know how special his friendship is to you and plan to do something fun together this week. Friendship is a gift from God. Give thanks and nurture the gift.

Day 17

Thing I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 17

"I understand that we have the power of life and death in our words. I choose life."

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.

Proverbs 25:11

Being able to communicate with your spouse is so important in a marriage. Here are a few simple rules that I hope will help:

1. Think First, Speak Second. If you say the first thing that pops into your head, you will probably wish you had left it unsaid.
2. Learn to Be a Good Listener: Far too many marriages are unsuccessful because one or both spouses simply don't make the effort to listen. Always listen carefully to your husband.
3. Don't be a Chronic Complainer. You will never whine your way to a happy marriage and men rarely respond to nagging, so don't even try it.
4. Be Trustworthy. Don't hedge the truth. Don't omit facts. Don't make promises you know you can't keep.
5. Be Encouraging. You should be your spouse's biggest fan. Not his his constant critic.

You have the power to lift your husband up or bring him down. When you learn to lift him up, you will soon discover you've lifted yourself up too.

Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

Proverbs 12:18

Day 16

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 16

"I Will Be Strong for You."

Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come.
Proverbs 31:25

When a man and woman are married they never know what the future holds, but you can be sure there will be some difficult days ahead. Days filled with doubt, confusion, sickness, hurts, and countless troubles. It's in these times your husband needs to know you can be strong. Men often keep things from their wife so she will not worry or fret over situations, but husbands and wives need to support each other. Let your husband know that his burdens are your burdens too. Assure him that you will not fret over the matter but you will be strong and trust God to care of it.

Bill Hybels said it like this: "God is great and God is powerful, but we must invite Him to be powerful in our lives. His strength is always there, but it's up to us to provide a channel through which that power can flow."

When you and your husband stand together with God, there is nothing, absolutely nothing that the three of you can't handle.

Day 15

Things  Need to Tell My Husband

Day 15

"Thank You for Being a Good Example"

Let your light shine before men that they may see your good works

and glorify the Father in heaven.

Matthew 5:16

You may not realize it, but your marriage is an example to others. The big question is what kind of example is your marriage? I hope your marriage sets an example that honors God, honors family, and encourages others.

Today's world is filled with negative role models. That is why the example you and your husband set is so important. When you serve as positive role models you are helping other couples. They visualize positive changes that they can make in their own marriage. Your children are also taking note of your example. The example you set today, they may emulate tomorrow. Make sure you set a good one.

Ecclesiastes say "When all has been heard, the conclusion of the matter is: fear God and keep His commands." That sounds like a good plan to me.

Day 14

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day14

"I Treasure Our family."

But as for me and my family, we will serve the LORD.”

Joshua 24:15

I guess it's ironic that yesterday I wrote about time and today I am writing about family.

I lost a friend and mentor today. After fighting cancer with all her might for 22 months The Lord took her home today. She was a minister's wife, a mother, a grandmother, she ministered in song and in word, and served the Lord with all of her might. Kathy Isaacs was only 48 years old. Kathy loved her family. She did not have to tell you, you saw it. She always put her family ahead of herself,  She knew God wanted her to be a wife and mother first. She treasured her family and now  they will never be the same.

Our families are a priceless treasure from God. Don't rush through the day without taking notice of just how blessed you are. The pressure of this life is intense. We live in a busy world that demands our time and raising a family is a big job. Let's put God in the center of our family. Make sure you take time to worship Him, praise Him, love Him, and trust Him together. The next time your family life becomes stressful remember that those people you love so much are on temporary loan from God.  Tell your husband that you treasure the family you and him have together. Tell God you are thankful for His gift of family. Then say a prayer for the Isaac's family.

Day 13

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 13

"I Love Spending Time With You."

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

Ecclesiastes 3:1 

Have you ever heard someone say they have too much time on their hands? Well, that would not be me. As a matter of fact I don't know any women that have too much time. Usually we have more things to do than we have time.

A strong marriage takes spending time together. Has the busy pace of life robbed you of spending time with your husband?  If so, consider the above verse. It says there is a time for everything. God has given us time. We just have to make that time priority. 

If you are a mother you may often give that time to your children, and our children require a great deal of our time, but remember this, one day your children will grow up and move away. Your husband will still be with you. It is important that we take time now to build a relationship that will last forever.  

Wise wives give generous amounts of time to their husbands. Tell your husband that you love to spend time with him. Then do it!

Day 12

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 12

"I Will Always be Faithful to You."

Love must be without hypocrisy. Detest evil; cling to what is good.  

Romans 12:9 

Temptation is everywhere. But marriage must be built on trust. Without trust a marriage begins to wither. For Christian men and women, being faithful to your spouse is the right choice because it is God's policy. Hebrews 13:4 says it this way;  Marriage must be respected by all, and the marriage bed kept undefiled, because God will judge immoral people and adulterers.

Yesterday I talked briefly about the wife in Proverbs 31. In verse 11 and 12 the writer says the heart of her husband trusts in her,  and he will not lack anything good. She rewards him with good, not evil, all the days of her life. In other words, her husband can give her his heart and know that she will never cause him to regret it.

The Bible says that whoever has no rule over his own spirit is like a city broken down without walls. Ask God today to help you not be broken down by evil but raised up by the power of God. Ask Him to build a wall of protection around you and your husband so that you will hate what is evil and cling to what is good. God will do it, because faithfulness is His policy. 

Today tell your husband that he can trust his heart to you because you have given your heart to God. 

  

Day 11

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 11

"I Will Try to Make Our Home a Happy Place."

He blesses the home of the righteous. Proverbs 3:33

Are you determined to make your home a happy place? I hope that is your intent because that is what God wants and what your husband needs. Webster's dictionary describes happiness as -enjoying or characterized by well-being and contentment: having or marked by an atmosphere of good fellowship.

That sounds to me like a happy home is one where the atmosphere is pleasant. Have you ever heard the old saying, "if Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy?" Most of the time the woman sets the tone in the home.  Jesus teaches, "In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you. Matthew 7:12. Healthy homes are built upon this rule. Healthy homes are built on caring and sharing, giving and taking. When we know God's Word and follow it, we enrich our own lives and the lives of those in our home.

Consider the Godly model of the wife from Proverbs 31. It says she takes care of her home and runs it well. She is not lazy, but carefully watches what goes on in her home. God expects no less from us. God deserves the best we can give Him. And by the way, so does your husband.

So today, honor God and your husband by setting the tone of happiness in your home.

The home should be a kind of church, a place where God is honored. 

Billy Graham 

Day 10

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 10

"I Am Thankful for All You Do."

In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in

Christ Jesus for you.

1 Thessalonians 5:16

Are you thankful for the things your husband does? Then you need to tell him so. No one likes to be taken for granted.

Your husband is the head of the family. That comes with great responsibility. Think of all the countless duties your husband has. Some of them begin before sunrise and may not end until long after sunset. Amid all the rush of life it is easy to lose sight of all those blessings. Tell him you are thankful for all the things that help make your life good, from taking out the trash, to making sure the bills are paid and food is on the table, to setting an example for your children to follow. Ask God to bless the work of your husband's hands. Pray that he will be like a tree planted by the water that brings forth fruit in due season. May he never wither under pressure, but grow strong and prosper. (Psalm 1:3)

Develop an attitude of gratitude.

Day 9

Things I Need To Tell My Husband

Day 9

"Thank You for Being a Man of Integrity."

The integrity of the upright will guide them,

but the perversity of the unfaithful will destroy them.

Proverbs 11:3

Integrity ...it's who you are when no one is looking. It's a level of morality which you never fall below. It's a high standard of honesty, truthfulness, decency and honor that is never breached.

When your husband  yields to God's high principles of moral integrity, there are blessing you and your family will enjoy because of the man he is. Blessings that you can pass down to your children. Since integrity starts in your heart, your husband must choose to be a man of integrity.

But he needs your prayers to help him fight the enemy that seeks to snare him. Ask God to give him a teachable spirit that is willing to listen to the voice of wisdom and grow in God's ways.  Pray that he will not live a lie in any way, but truth and mercy will be bound around his neck.

Your prayers will help shield him from anything that causes him to doubt or waver, and give him strength to do the right thing - even when no one is looking.

The righteous man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him."

Proverbs 20:7

Day 8

Things I Need To Tell My Husband

Day 8

"Thank You For Your Prayers"

The intense prayer of the righteous is very powerful. James 5:16

Do you pray for your husband? Does he pray for you? Do you pray together? You should. When a man and woman are married they become one unit, unified in spirit. Unity is a powerful thing. This oneness gives us power that the devil does not like. Prayer is a powerful thing too. When you and your husband are united in prayer you can move the mountains in your marriage and in your family.

Some people pray out of habit, like at meals or at bedtime.  Romans 12:12 says that we should be persistent in prayer. Through constant prayer, you and your husband can petition God, praise God, and seek His guidance for you marriage and life. Prayer changes thing, prayer changes people, prayer changes marriages. 

Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to hime who knocks it will be opened.

Matthew 7:7-8



Day 7

Things I Need To Tell My Husband

Day 7

"Thank You for Your Forgiveness, I Will be Forgiving too."

Be merciful, just as your Father also is merciful.

Luke 6:36

If you want to make love last a lifetime, you and your husband will have to master the art of forgiveness.

One day, Peter asked Jesus about forgiveness. "Just how many times am I required to forgive a person? About seven?" Jesus answered, "seventy seven times." Jesus knew the art of forgiving was learning how to keep on forgiving. 

Granting forgiveness is hard when you have been hurt by the one you love. It's hard, but it is not impossible.  Bitterness, anger, and regret are emotions that have no place in your marriage. Ask God for His help. He will help you put aside any anger, hurt and disappointment. Ask God to make you a tool of reconciliation and healing in your marriage. Remember, you will never forgive someone more than God has forgiven you.

 Thank your husband today for the times he has extended forgiveness to you and let him know that you will try to always be forgiving.

Only the truly forgiven are truly forgiving.

C.S Lewis

Day 6

Thing I Need To Tell My Husband

Day 6

"Thank You for Your Patience. I Will be Patient Too."

Love is Patient; love is kind.

1 Corinthians 13:4

Marriage requires patience. Even if you are married to the most wonderful man in the world, from time to time he will do things that confuse you, confound you, and anger you. Why? Because he is a human being just like you. There are times when we all need others  to be patient with us, but living day to day with someone may require more patience than we actually have. On days like that you need to remember how patient God is with you. Everyday His mercy is new.

Are you one of those women who demand perfection from your spouse? Maybe it's time to lighten up on your expectations. The changes you try to make in your husband will be disappointing. Instead, ask God to make the necessary changes. He will do a far better job. Psalms 62:5 puts it this way.."My soul waits for God alone, my expectation is from Him."  Your greatest expectation should be from God, not your husband. 

If you expect patience from your husband, he has the right to expect the same from you. So the next time your husband is trying your patience, take a deep breath and ask God to help you be patient. Remember, the world unfolds on God's timetable, not yours.

A patient person shows great understanding,

 but a quick -tempered one promotes foolishness.  Proverbs 14:29



Day 5

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 5

"I Will Always Help You."

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband.

Proverbs 12:4

Men need our help. They may not admit it, but they do. In the 2nd chapter of Genesis, God gives us the reason He created Eve.

The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”  Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.  So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.  But for Adam no suitable helper was found.  So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.  Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

Eve was the only suitable helper for Adam. No one else would do.

Your husband needs your help. He may be holding his feelings inside, or he may think he has to fix everything by himself, or maybe he is just too proud to ask for help. Tell him you are willing and able to help him. Men that take their rightly, Biblical role in the family have an enourmous responsibility. Let your husband know that you are right by his side. You are the helper that God created just for him and you wouldn't have it any other way!

Day 4

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 4

"I'm Committed to Our Marriage"

So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

Therefore what God has joined together, man must not separate.

Matthew 19:6

In marriage, love is a powerful word. But another powerful word is commitment. Genuine love is a committed love, and that is more than a feeling, it is a decision. A decision to make love endure.

In the world we live in today, marriage vows are taken far too lightly. When times are tough, many couples call it quits and the results are often tragic. That is why your husband should know you are totally commited to making your marriage last a lifetime. But with all the pressure and the temptations, how can you make it work? The best place to start is by putting God in the center of your marriage. When you and your husband are praying and worshiping together, it will be hard for the devil to pull you apart. Everyday invite God to be first in your life and in the center of your relationship with your spouse. With God's help you and your husband can build a marriage that will stand the test of time. Decide today to love with genuine, committed love.

Day 3

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 3

"I'm Thankful for Our Marriage."

I will give You thanks with all my heart.

Psalm 138:1

Every good gift comes from God. But sometimes in the rush of everyday life, we don't take the time to stop and count our blessings. If you look around, I'm sure you will find that you are blessed beyond measure.

Married life brings joy. It can also be challenging. Satan would like you to focus on the challenges of married life instead of the joy. But marriage was God's plan from the very beginning. Your marriage is a gift from God. Make no mistake about it, when you celebrate the gift God has given you, your thankfulness will be a powerful statement to your husband. So chose to focus on the on the good things about your spouse and talk to God about the challenges. Ask Him to give you a fresh perspective and a positive outlook. Remember, God has a great plan for your future. So start today with a prayer and throughtout the day give thanks for your marriage!



Day 2

　

 

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 2

" I will honor you by putting God first in my Life."

You shall have not other gods before me.
Exodus 20:3

Do you know the number one need of a man? No, it’s not sex. It’s respect. If you want to honor your husband, then it starts with honoring God. Do you allow God to reign over your life? Do you put God first in every aspect of you life? As the demands of everyday life weigh down upon you, it will be easy to ignore God’s presence or worst yet rebel against Him. Right now as you are reading this, God is seeking you out. He wants to work in you. He wants to work through you. Deuteronomy 6:12 says "Be careful not to forget the Lord." Deuteronomy 6:5 says "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength." Honor God today by putting Him first. In doing so you will bring honor to your husband. Proverbs says that the price of a Godly woman is far above rubies. Tell your husband " I will honor you by putting God first in my Life" and he will soon realize just what a priceless jewel you are!

Day 1

Things I Need to Tell My Husband

Day 1

“I love you Now and Forever”

Now these three remain: faith, hope, and love.

But the greatest of these is love.

1 Corinthians 13:13

1 Corinthians 13 reminds us of the importance and the power of love. From cover to cover the Bible tells of God’s loves for each of us. His love is unconditional. Sometimes love is easy. Other times it’s hard. But God has made it clear that we are to love at all times. Not just when people are at their best. That includes your husband. He needs to hear you say “I love you” every day. Even days when he is at his worst. Like I said, some days will be easier than others. But on the hard days take a look at 1 Corinthians 13 and be reminded that God loves you even when you are at your worst.

But not only is God’s love unconditional, it is everlasting. He will never leave us or forsake us. We can count on Him to always be there. Your husband needs to know that you are in this for the long haul. You will be there on the good days and the bad days. It’s hard to love and trust someone that is always threatening to leave. Let him know that he can count on you.

Take a little time today to thank God for his unconditional, endless love. Then take time to tell your husband “I love you Now and Forever”.